IF YOU’RE LIKE MOST OF THE MILITARY WIVES I TALK TO, YOU’RE AT HOME IN THE TRENCHES. YOU LOVE YOUR FAMILY AND ALWAYS PICK UP THE SLACK WHEN YOUR HUSBAND’S JOB COMES CALLING.
Yet, as the years have gone by, you feel lost, as though somewhere along the way, you became an afterthought. You’re in constant survival mode, afraid to settle in or stop worrying about the next move, the next deployment, the next goodbye to your child’s best friend. You are proud of your husband’s service yet you want more out of life.
You want to:
- handle life better, (including deployments!)
- find purpose, drive, and passion for your life
- face your husband’s absences with confidence, knowing you can handle it
- find a good balance of filling your own cup. so you can fill the cups around you
I wanted all of that too. A few years ago, after returning from a 3 year overseas assignment, I looked around and realized that I had everything I had ever wanted – the husband (a really cute air force pilot that could always make me laugh) and the kids (3 of the loudest humans I’ve ever met) and the house (which needed major updating). But faced with a long year of back to back extended tdy’s in the middle of a house renovation, and it started to feel like my life was falling apart.
I was fighting with my husband and regularly losing it on my kids. Self care was nonexistent and I felt drained, emotionally, mentally. I had everything I had ever wanted but it felt so far from the ‘dream life’ I had ever pictured. I felt lost, uncertain, and full of painful self doubt.
Then, I found life coaching. I learned powerful tools that I used to change things for me, on a deeply personal level. On the outside, my life looked the same, but on the inside, it couldn’t be more different. I no longer wallow in self doubt or pity and am confidently creating the life that I want to have.
There’s less fighting, less judgement and more love, more calm. I feel peaceful and confident about the future, knowing I am absolutely ready to be the wife and mom that my family needs me to be.