Sometimes life feels dramatic.
I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to, though.
The drama is created by our thoughts. In every situation in our lives, there’s facts and then there’s drama. The drama comes from whatever it is that we’re choosing to think.
I’ll give you an example. It’s Christmas time and you’ve asked your mother in law to limit her gifts for the kids to two presents each. You receive a call from her after she puts the gifts in the mail and she tells you about the four presents she’s packaged up and sent for each of your kids.
Caught off guard, you don’t say anything to her in the moment but when your poor husband comes home from work that evening, you unload on him, going over and over the fact that his mother is sending four gifts and how she’s not respecting you and how the kids are going to be spoiled and there will be far too many gifts under the tree on Christmas morning and you can’t get the kids what you want to because she has already bought them too many things and on and on and on.
This is dramatic. And exhausting.
Do you realize that all of this is completely optional?
You can choose to think whatever you want about the situation.
You obviously can’t control what your mother in law does. The only person you can control is you.
And you can consider this: if you choose to indulge in these dramatic thoughts, the only person you’re hurting is you. You’re thinking that something has gone wrong and that is going to make you feel some sort of negative feeling. Then, you’re going to act and react in a way that’s a direct result of that negative feeling.
Or, you can choose a different thought.
Because all of our thoughts are optional. They’re just sentences in our brain.
Maybe you choose to think how nice it is that your kids have so many people that love them in their life.
Or you feel thankful that the kids will have a great, abundant Christmas without you having to buy everything.
Or you simply think that gift giving is how your mother in law shows love to your kids and aren’t you grateful that she’s showing up in love for your kids.
These different thoughts are going to bring a different feeling to your body. It’s probably not going to be negative. It could be something like love. You may feel loving towards your mother in law, towards your kids, even towards yourself for simply making the request to limit the gifts. You feel secure that you made the request that felt like the best thing for your kids and end it at that.
And what’s the result of all of this? You don’t get wrapped up in the drama, get mad on Christmas morning or rob yourself of the delight you could get by buying all the fun gifts for your kids.
You can choose drama or you can choose love or peace or happiness.
But first you have to choose your thoughts wisely. The rest will follow.